This is with reference to my married life. I am a simple guy with values and respect for my family and faiths. I have lost my father and my mother stays with us. My older brother is not settled in his personal and professional life, a Challenge or threat to me in some or the other way. My wife is the only daughter in her family with 2 brothers. Her father is a retired manager. One of her brothers owns a boarding school and stays in the school with his family. Other one works in a car showroom, a marketing guy who initiated our marriage, married to a girl out of caste. The marriage was divided in two parts by the other side family: One brother would do the engagement part and the other part of marriage would be done by the other brother. Both these brothers don’t have cordial relationships with each other. Even one of them did not attend marriage due to this reason only. My wife a MA graduate always takes side of her mother and keeps blaming her father and the brother who own the school. Also she uses bad words for her sister in law. Currently after my marriage I have seen my mother in law staying alone for last 9 months and my father in law staying with his son in school. I am facing regular problems from my wife in a lot of ways. Since marriage she was not doing for 5 months …..Got her treated …..Kept medicines on but there is no change. Some or the other ailments create problems. In between she had visited her mother twice for 30days each and 15 days with her brother for 15 days. She keeps on repeating certain things ‘I never got ill in my mothers place’ ‘I do a lot of work at my mother ‘s place’.(After marriage she never ever bothers to wake up and say bye to her husband in the morning hours) – My sister is bad – My mother is bad – I am Bad – I don’t listen to her – I shout at her – We do a lot of pooja – We take heavy meals at night – I DON’T UNDERSTAND HER and many more lot of things Some areas where I tried to share my concern when she was with her brother or mother she replied in a bad way. I said I will come to meet you…she said don’t come here these people have got some reputation I am busy with some other so I though not to receive your call nor sms you as I don’t want to disconnect the discussion. ‘Mera dum ghootta hain yahan par’ She on the other hand tells a lot of lies to me .This could be my apprehension but I think there is some thing where she lies to me. Sample incidents: She took out some money kept at home and sealed the envelope which was opened and did not share the info too. In our cupboard there is a bag since 6 months ….which has caught some worms …she straight away said my mom kept it there which is not true for me. She is very short tempered. My mother and me have not yet added responsibilities to her as she was not doing well. I trusted her and provided a cell phone connection so that whenever she thinks she can talk to her parents. The outcome is that she calls her parents more than 3 times in day and chats for at least 40-50 minutes on an average. I highlighted one in six months she replied my mother is not doing well so I called her. But rest five months …the situation is not changing. Bill comes up to Rs.3000 for calls made by her. All these things she does after closing the doors of the room. On knocking she says I am not doing well but keeps chatting on phone. Recently I send her some secret gifts (Under garments and Letter) to be delivered to her but she was not at home. I thought it to be surprise but became my worst episode till date. This might become too long for you to read .As the story is never ending; I would need your guidance as what needs to be done to make things better in our life. She has brain but she uses it for information provided by others.

Her family members are typical people (family quarrels, attitude etc suggest this) and that might have influenced her personality. Your adjustment problem with her seems to be result of this. Both of you should go to psychiatrist and discuss your issues.