I got married about 7 months ago with a guy who had done M.Com. And now working as a PRO. We have a joint family, my mother-in-law, brother-in-law and his wife and their 4-year-old child. My father-in-law died 2 years ago. Basically, my husband’s nature is dominant. Generally, till our marriage everyone asks him for any kind of solutions and follows his instructions, but the problem starts with our relation. I was in third semester of MBA at the time of our engagement and working as a MT and earning a bit more than him at the time of our engagement. We are 4 members in family on my mother’s side, my parents and 1 handicap sister. My husband’s financial condition was not so good at the time of our engagement due to share market collapse, so he was not ready for marriage till I finish my MBA. I was already 30 years old and he was 34 years old at the time of our engagement and I have two relation breaks (engagement) before also due to some problems. One guy was a fraud and the other broke the relation only due to some misunderstanding. I already had clarified these things to my husband at our very first phone talk and he didn’t mind for such matters. My parents were thinking that we already have crossed the marriage age and I had two bad experiences before also, so this time they don’t want to wait. From their point of view, their thinking is right and also I know my husband’s situation very well, so he was also right at that time, so I feel a dilemma, and I requested him to get ready for marriage and I had told him that we’ll do court marriage to save the cost, which he was not ready for, he just want to wait and I cant convince my parents for it, so he got ready for marriage but this decision hurt his ego, he basically is dominant and he had to let-go for this matter, which is difficult for him to accept and he has some bias for my parents from this decision that they want to take benefit of his weakness. Then, another situation comes. I am working from home PC, job work. After marriage, he wanted me to ask my parents to shift our PC to my new home. Now, we are living in joint family and our marriage decision was very quick as I already have told. In marriage, as I am the only child for my parents, obviously they gave me a lot. So, when my husband asked for PC, my parents took it wrongly that my husband did marriage only for money and things, which he wants to collect from my parents’ home, and so they refused. They told that they will give everything but slowly, not this much immediately just after marriage. So, again my husband’s ego was hurt. I gave him a solution that I leave the job and stop working from home and accept a job at some another company, so that we don’t need to invest money for PC and also we don’t need to ask anyone to give us PC for work and I can also support him financially. He took money on interest for marriage, which I am well aware of, so I don’t want to leave the job at all, but I don’t know why he was not ready for that and then all my problems started. He become stubborn that why my parents refuse to give PC to me if it is only for my use. Why they are trying to take benefit of his financial situation every now and then. He thought that they are hurting his self-respect and I am supporting them, but I never thought that way. I think to work from another company outside the home is a good option and it wont hurt anyone’s feelings and self-respect, but he was not ready at all. Now, this is my last semester of MBA and still the conflict is going on. He doesn’t want me to leave the job, doesn’t want me to get outside the home for job, also doesn’t want me to use any of my savings even for my own costs, and the only thing going on in his mind is that my parents are his enemy and I am supporting only them and so I never ever oppose their decision to not give me the PC. Now, isn’t it strange that on one side he talks about self-respect and on the other hand he becomes this much stubborn to get things from my parent’s home? If he believes this much in self-respect then he himself should refuse to take anything from my parents’ home once they refuse it. My condition is worst in all this, almost like sandwich. Neither can I convince my parents nor him for any better solution. Now, slowly he becomes suicidal and wants to kill himself. So many times he hit himself, but the other thing I noticed is even if he hit himself, it doesn’t cause any serious injury to his body and even if he always threats me that he will do suicide, but he never ever take any such step also. He has four stones in his kidney, which is hurting him badly but now he even is not ready for laser treatment of it. I really don’t know how to handle this situation and who is wrong in all this. Right now, I work from my mother’s home. I come at around 11 o’clock in the morning after finishing all my home work and then after finishing my job work from my mother’s home, I again go to my husband’s home at around 7 o’clock in the evening. I even told him that if he wishes I can leave the job at all only for him, but he doesn’t accept it also. He refuses all options and just repeats one thing again and again that my parents are his enemy, they want to take benefit of his financial situation, he will kill himself, etc., etc. Try to answer me if possible.