I am 24yrs old girl having responsibility of family as my father expired before 11yrs. I am working from 10th std. First I was alone fighting with the situation now I bought a flat for my family with very hard struggle I have some financial crises. Then I was 18 yr old I met a boy by chat and we became good friends, after that we fall in love he was perfect as my dream man but he was not ready for marriage as his other friends were talking bad things about me. But I am not like that, during this relation I met another boy who was earning good matured and wants to marry me. I left 1st one for this guy as I was in need of companion. But this person was over possessive and once he saw me with 1st one so he started doubting on me and spoil the sweetness of relationship. He got married with someone else still he was having relation with me, 1st one also get engaged now. But the 2nd one is now leaving his wife and 2yr old son as his marriage life is not happier as per him its because of me as he already told his wife about me. Now he is taking my responsibilities and all that but I m not happy we had physical relations from long time but if I denied for relation he start saying that I have options that’s why I am refusing. My family circle is not so big so not getting good offers from my caste even I am an MBA, good looking and smart as per all my friends. Before few days I met that 1st boy and he suggested me that u get married and make your mom tension free but still I wish that he marries me. When I asked about his engage meant he changed the topic and is not ready to discuss but till today he is as usual trying to make me happy even by phone or little bit talks. He wants to meet me but I m ignoring him. 1st one is playing good role by giving me respect love happiness and all that but nothing about future as he is not clearly saying and 2nd one wants to marry me after his divorce and he is taking good part in responsibilities but my happiness my freedom and all that he doesn’t care he wan that I live as per his instructions. for example I wish to go for trip with office staff but he is not allowing he force me to switch off my cell after office and all that makes me disturb as its not a way of good life. My boss is really caring and he start liking me as I am the best in all my responsibilities, I am the girl who is suffering lot in my life still never complaint and all that. He loves me and wishing that I get marry soon with someone and live happily. I rejected one offer from a colleague who loved me blindly and after my rejection he got engaged. Right now I am very much disturb and fed up from my life I know future will be better but for that I have to take some change in my life, in job I am not getting better place and opportunity even I am doing better than also. All are praising but not promoting me. It’s called bad luck or what? From childhood I had seen quarrels of my parents, then death of my father, responsibilities and now burden of brothers study, family responsibilities and other problems like above. Please guide what to do?

It is unfortunate that you had to face so much from a very young age; naturally you would feel tiered and frustrated. You concentrate on your career and can also take some part time course which may help in your job and promotions. About the relationships that you have asked in that you need to stop any relationship that are emotionally exploiting and wherein you know that there is no future. Further make an effort to find a suitable partner from fresh.