Hi Doctor. First of all I would like to mention that you are doing a wonderful job by providing solutions to everybody’s problems. I had shared my problem with you earlier also. I am married for 1 ½ years with a 6 months baby. I had certain issues with my husband and in laws in the past. They couldn’t provide me emotional support during my pregnancy. The outcome of which was that we fought a lot & I came to my parents for 1 month. I only initiated to go back thinking about me and my kid’s future. As advised by you I have started financially contributing as asked by my father in law. You also advised me to give sometime to my husband as my relation with my in laws seem to be on track but my hubby was very cold towards me and needed sometime to come back. It has been 2 months now since I came back .His attitude towards me is now changing for good but when it comes to physical, it is practically absent. We didn’t have any physical relation for last one year. I have given him hints many a times directly or indirectly by saying things like we are not living a normal husband and wife relation but according to him everything is fine. He doesn’t discuss about when we should start having relation. He doesn’t even kiss me. When I talk about that he says we will do it and I am not comfortable with the baby in the same room. We can go to other room for that. He said that quite sometime back. Afterwards I didn’t discuss anything. I don’t want to discuss it again and again. I also feel uncomfortable and don’t want to give him any impression that I am desperate for it. It’s just that I am scared that if it continues like that it will never happen. He doesn’t have any disease but he is stressed because of work pressure. This pressure will remain forever because his job is like that even if he changes his job. When I feel frustrated I start nagging and that upsets him a lot and on which he says that you are always complaining. I feel unwanted and when I repeatedly tell him this, he tells me that it is your problem and that he feels things are improving. He gives his love to his parents and kid but I am yet to create a place in his heart. I don’t know what to do? How long should I wait? How do I control myself from not complaining? If I wait patiently would he come back to me? What kind of attitude shall I have towards him? Please advice.

It seems that he is taking a sort of revenge by depriving you sexually and emotionally. Stop asking for sex and stop nagging too. Try to overcome your frustration by doing some meaningful activities or job. If you can keep yourself happy and busy in your own activities then he will automatically try to seek your attention and care. At that time, do not rush to please him but let him realize your worth. You have to keep good amount of patience for this.