Hello, I (21) have been in a relationship with my girlfriend (20) for almost 2 years now. Everything between us goes well until she gets angry. She can neither control her mind nor body when she’s angry. She says really mean stuff while angry but always comes back crying to me when she cools down n apologises. Once she even cut her vein due to anger and she sometimes throws around stuff too. I’m really worried she might harm herself someday. Please help me as to how I can help her control her anger. (She has had a bad childhood which I think is the reason for all of this.)

From this brief description, I guess, she has problem of controlling her impulses. This can be a part of her personality. She needs to learn relaxation exercises and counselling to get control over her impulses.