Hello Dr, This is an issue related to one of my friend. He is 24 years old. He loves a girl and wishes to marry her. But recently he had sexual relation with some other girl .The thought of sex keeps controlling him. He has confessed himself to the girl he loves. But he wants to correct himself. He recollected certain incidents of his childhood (somewhere in Xth standard) where his behaviour was not fine .He wants to overcome this complex behaviour of his .He is also hesitant to approach any psychiatrist.. because he feels that it might not be kept confidential. He feels low about himself .He feels guilty about himself for spoiling the girl’s life . he is really depressed.. Can u kindly give some suggestions so that I can help him.

You are in love with some one and at the same time enjoying sex with other woman, strange! Love is a feeling where you can not think of any body else in your life, not even for sexual pleasure. Your friend loves her but he is not in love with her. I hope you can understand the difference. From your brief narration about his past, It seems that he needs analytical work up by psychiatrist. Confidentiality is a part of psychiatrist’s profession, so it is not a constraint.