Hello Doctor, I had been married for more than a year, we are facing difficulty in having continuous smooth sex. Sometimes we have proper intercourse, but at certain times I am unable to satisfy her, the erection goes off during middle of intercourse. Though I love her so much, but sometimes some things keep running in my mind about family issues and other factors, though I try very hard not to think about those things during love making, but its keep coming in mind. And certain times I don’t know what run in my mind. How can I overcome this situation and led a peaceful life having normal sex life. My wife always keeps complaining that her friends have sex daily, but we usually have 2 to 3 times in a week. But she always says that you don’t love me as you say, because we don’t have proper sex. What can I do to have normal and happy life with my wife?

Your erection failure has nothing to do with amount of love you have for your wife. Men can get erection without loving the woman he sleeps with, so erection and love has no connection. Your problem is related to your mental state during the act. During the act if you are flooded with negative emotions, anxiety etc then you may lose erection. Try to discuss the emotional issues running in your mind and sort out the solutions. Learn relaxation techniques like progressive muscle relaxation, Shabasan, Meditation, self hypnosis etc. Explain your wife not to put performance pressure on you, which can worsen your problem. Make her to read this answer.