Hello Doctor, first of all I would like to congratulate you on writing such a fantastic book-“pan hu tane prem karu chu”.Actualy I have just started reading it .I would like to tell you about my problem .I am married since 9 years, have 2 lovely kids, my family members are also very good people. A year ago I just started chatting with a guy and slowly I fell in love with him, I knew what I was doing was wrong but I couldn’t help it, then we started talking on the phone, but I had never seen him. Then my husband came to know about my relationship. I asked him to forgive me, and I promised him that I will not do the same mistake. Now 3-4 months have passed but I still love that guy, and I am not able to forget him. I try to keep myself busy, but all in vain and my lover also loves me a lot he told me that he will never marry anyone other than me. I requested him to change his cell number, he refused to do so. Now I always feel like calling him, I long to hear his voice. And he is very different from my husband. He is very loving and caring, always showing his love for me. While my husband is not demonstrative. And my other problem is I don’t enjoy physical relationship with my husband, and this problem is since many years, I rarely get aroused by him, maybe the problem is with me, and my husband is a simple looking guy. And I look smarter than him. Now I am trying really hard to make my married life happy, but I have not been successful yet. And I just feel like going away to my lover. Now what should I do? Please help me and guide me.

It is too late for this decision as you have to consider about your two children also. If that doesn’t matter you then you can think of going to your lover. At this stage ( nine years of marriage, two children, Indian culture ) Accept what you have and exercise self-control. In life you may come across better persons then what you had up till now but that doesn’t mean you should behave in responsible way.