Sir, I am a married (Male) about 7 years back now I am aged 39 years. I am happy with my wife aged 34 years, we have two kids one aged 6 years and other 1 year old. I and my wife maintain a good relation through out our married life. I love my wife very much and so does she. The problem is that one of my cousins is also married. I always I have some of attraction towards his wife who is about of my age 39 years. My cousin got married much before me. When I see my cousin wife some sort of sexual feeling starts in my body because I meet her frequently since we stay in a big house. Sometime at night I think of her Kindly advice what to do to overcome this problem

Many males have such kind of sexual crush. Only thing you can do to overcome this sexual feeling is self control. Do not find excuses for not exercising control over your desire.  Make conscious efforts not to think about her, which in turn will help you to control your desire.

Sir , I read your articles. I like them.I have confusion about obsessive compulsive disorder. I notice that I am little bit suffering from OCD. How to treat ?

Obsessive compulsive disorder is a type of anxiety disorder. You need to consult a psychiatrist for final diagnosis and treatment options available as per your case.

Sir, I’m a 21 yr old guy. Having normal mental status. However, I don’t know why I’m not very much interested in talking with girls. I feel shy of talking with them. May be due to a dark complexion. Otherwise, I’m a confident guy. I’m always in front in every talk or every field.

This is a very common problem with many boys and reasons can be many. I need more details to analyze reasons. Complexion can be one of the major considerations in first sight attraction but on long run girl will look for love, affection, maturity and respect you have for her.

I am hoping you will have a moment to provide me with your perspective. I’m sure you have heard this a thousand times but I saw your site and would like your advice. My wife has never really been interested in intimacy (making love). I have only been with her and she with me. Married 27 years Two high school boys We met in college We get along great Our current ages 45 Frequency twice a month She is a daily runner We have discussed it and it just have never been important I don’t know why but for some reason, I just seem to feel I not only want higher frequency but want the intimacy to be deeper. I want her to want it as well and be excited about us being together. We enjoy the love making but she says infrequently is fine for her. We both work – We both help out around the house (dishes, laundry, yardwork, kids) What do you suggest? Seriously interested in your advice Thank you in advance

Sexual Desire has mainly physiological and psychological components. If it is right from the beginning of your relationship then possibility of psychological reasons are more likely. In-depth analysis of her rearing, sexual orientation, childhood sexual experiences (sexual abuse) etc is required. She may be suffering from Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder. Psychiatric evaluation can throw light on this. Moreover you may think of getting her Thyroid Profile as a rare possibility Hypothyroidism may be the reason. Although having two children after her low desire rules out any major hormonal problems.
 

 

We have recently shifted to Delhi in a very small house having two small bed rooms. I have my elder brother, my mom and pa in my family. My mom and pa are sleeping in one bedroom and my brother and myself sleeping in a single bed in another room. One day when I was preparing for my test in the night. I noticed erected penis of my brother which was coming out from the dhoti he used to wear. His penis was so large and attractive I could not stop myself touching it. I was so fascinated with it. I took his penis in my vagina. Since then we are daily having sex with each other without the knowledge of our parents. But love to have sex with him, but worried about thinking my future life when I would get married. You are requested to please advise what to do. Will my future husband able to find out the truth. I have no regret as far as our relationship is concerned the only fear is my marriage life. Please advice.

He may come to know from the way you respond during the sexual act with him as experienced female would respond differently than novice one, provided he is smart enough and also experienced.

Since the last three or four months my wife is doing a surprising activity. From normal she changes to abnormal & is scared from ghost. Sir give me some advise what could be done to get rid of this problem.

This could be an attention seeking behaviour or may be symptom of psychotic illness. Take her to psychiatrist for final diagnosis.

I am deeply in love with a girl. She is all I could ask for but she had an extremely traumatic past because of which she could never focus on her education. As a result she is late by 5 yrs in her education and she doesn’t know English that well either. However we are working on it and we have got her registered to private schooling. All that I have said till now was the data. My problem is that I am unable to make her meet my friends or my family as the above reasons will lead them to think ill of her. Am I wrong in not having the courage to tell everyone that we are together despite whatever problems she has? Should I wait till she is finishes her education? Moreover, if my parents come to know about her they will go berserk and I cannot even imagine the consequences. Am I wrong in having a relationship with a girl my parents would not approve of?

If you love her, then you have to show the courage to accept that in front of others. You cannot hide her from reality. You have to present her to your friends in her current status and to show your commitment towards her by standing beside her. About reaction of your parents, you should have thought earlier; now you have to prepare yourself to face them.

Unfortunately, only you cannot solve this. Both of you have to act together. Such Interference is very common but couple has to jointly decide how much to take it. Take your husband in to the confidence and try to explain him that this is not against his mother but this is about your privacy. Rather than blaming his mother, try to establish positive communication with your husband.