I used to love a guy who was rejected by one of my friends. After that we became very good friends & fell in love with each other. In between all this that girl again came in his life & now she has fallen in love with him. When she proposed him, he said yes to her by rejecting me. After few days he realizes his true love for me after leaving her. Now the problem is that I still love him very much but I am not being able to forget what he has done with me. I am in a mess now. Please help me Sir.

He leaved you for another girl. He is not trustworthy. Leave him.

Hello sir I am 23 year old and from last one year I am suffering from the problem that after my sleep when I try to wake up my body start shivering I can see everything, feel everything, but I can’t speak at that time n cant wake up like my mind is alert it happens only after sleep & not daily but on alternative days. I have consulted many doctors but they were not able to judge this disease if u can help me than please tell me the reason.

This is manifestation of anxiety or stress that you might be going through in your life. For further guidance I need more information about your routine, worries, stresses etc.

How can I know about my last life? I have some ideas but they are not complete.

I have never understood why people are eager to know about their past life? It has no relation to your current life. Suppose you have a fear of flying and some healer (?!) try to explain you through past life regression (?!) that this fear is because of your death in plane crash in past life then will your fear go after knowing that so called fact? Unfortunately ‘No’! To me these are gimmicks played by some chits to earn money. I believe that those who are not satisfied with their current life, because of any problem; will fall into such gimmicks. If you are one of them then try to solve your problem through proper channel then such stupid claims. Sorry, this might sound you harsh but I’m very clear on this.

Sir, in my 11yrs of married life I have 8yrs old daughter and caring wife. but since last few months I am having unusual thoughts, empty headedness, abdominal discomfort and have unusual thoughts of looking at abdomen of people eg. male front side and female back side. It becomes difficult for me to represent myself in front of others. People laugh at me; they think I am gay or mad. Because of this I feel anxious and depressed many times. I have lost my job last month. I had taken escitlopram-5 OD for one month before 6 months. I have history of depression/anxiety last 3-4 yrs. I have been working in pharmacy field for last 14 yrs. have normal sex life, still attracted towards only females etc. But now I have suicidal thoughts some times. pls tell me what to do. Due to this I am finding difficult to maintain my social, professional, personal relationship. Thanking you

You have developed an obsession which can be a part of your Anxiety Depression. Please consult Psychiatrist and take medicines under his care.

Respected doctor, I am 21yrs old. I am an architecture student and I am suffering from GAD. I have been on venlor xr (75mg)[2 times a day ],and etizola0.5 [1 time a day ],,sine past 5-6month. My medicines shows effect to treat anxiety, but the effect soon vanishes after one day and again I have to take medicines. My question is that for how long should I continue to take medicines [as I don’t like to have pill everyday especially in such young age] 2.my doctor says that my stress of work is the reason and I should continue medicines to get well 3. I have heard that etizola is banned for sale in US and Canada. DOES IT IS SAFE TO HAVE ETIZOLA (0.5mg) daily, which I have been taking for past 6 month, will it affect my body?

Only medicines are never going to cure you from Anxiety. You should do relaxation exercises regularly (ask your therapist to teach you). Nobody likes to take medicines but one has to take until he gets cured. These medicines are safe, provided you take under medical supervision.

I at this age of 65, still have desires for sex though I cannot do much…So I am becoming addict of watching porno films that makes me shy and also some physical stress/weakness. I want to get rid of this habit but things are so easily available on internet now that even though I try to avoid I get attracted again and again…what’s the solution please?

Self control.
If no other family members require net connection and if you do not have any important things to do on net then remove net connection.

Dear Sir, Myself Chiranjit and I’m from Kolkata. I love one of my classmates in Management College. We were in relationship last 5 months. In the beginning we had good bonding but slowly problem comes out between us. She is staying in a hostel and she has 2 room mates. Sometimes we have some problem but still we manage. Now I’ve a friend and we three, that means I, my girlfriend and my friend hang out together. She shares her feelings in my absence to my friend and they come closer. One day I explore that she broke up with me and now in new relationship with my friend. The boy took the chance and accepts the relationship. I still love this girl and miss her too much. When she broke she had only two reasons that I’m not financially balance and my standard is not up to the mark. But the real scenario is not like that. Kindly suggest what to do? For both of us it was our first love. Waiting for your reply.

If she is not interested in the relationship for any reason (which is evident from the fact that she has broke up and now into the relationship with your friend) you should not compel her for the same. See, relationship is something which should come naturally and not by compulsion or by pushing yourself on some one. The fact that you still love her cannot bring her back to you. Even if she comes back, you cannot trust her for similar repetition at any point of life. Best thing is end up this and move on.

We got married in 1998. And till today I search for a peaceful moment but not getting. My mother in law always interferes in our married life. She always gives the wrong things in my wife’s mind. I have a son 8 years old and daughter 1 month old. When I married I was getting Rs.7k per month and now I am getting Rs.50K and in ten years I have my own house registered with my wife’s name, I have given my son in a good reputed school in Delhi, every year I take my family out for 10 days vacation, when ever she asked for gold jewelry I bought for her. I mean to say I tried to keep her happy in every way she needs. But she is fighting with me every time because of I care for my brother, my parents also. My parents and my brother are staying near to me 500 meters away from my home and I meet everyday with them. My wife and her mother telling why you meet everyday and why you care for them, let them enjoy their life on their own way , you have your family and you look after for your family only. What can I do sir, yes they can say if I only take care of my parents and brother but I care for my family too. My mother in law says to my wife you stay separately with your children and let your husband stay with his parents. I don’t understand how a mother can advise to her married daughter. I love my wife and children and also my parents and brother. How can I leave my parents and brother just to make my wife happy? What ever I do for her she doesn’t get happy, see can get happy if I leave my parents and bother aside. Tell me Sir who is right me or her. Where is God why God doesn’t help me to come across this problem? What is your advice, I like to maintain a peaceful life but for shake of peaceful life I get angry but afraid to tell anything to my wife , if I tell something then MAHABHARAT starts ,I don’t want to discuss this with my parents also. Because they love my wife so much but they don’t know the reality what I am facing in real life. Please advise I have written this with a great hope. What is the solution for this?

Your wife should understand this. If she does not understand the worth of your care then you need to make her understand by making her aware about things which you have done and are doing. Honestly convey her that you are interested in peaceful and harmonious relationship and do not want her mother’s interference in any case. Do not allow your in-laws to enter in your personal life. If your wife is bringing them in between, stop responding them. Try to be indifferent to them. You do not have to afraid to tell right things to your wife in any case. Never succumb to emotional blackmailing by your wife or your in-laws.

I am 36 years old. I have done the love marriage. My husband is very cooperative and sexy but now a day, I am facing a problem with the sexual activities. Whenever my husband initiates for physical relations, I feel irritation though I want to do sex. Please guide me why I feel like that? How can I enjoy a healthy sexual activity and give sexual satisfaction to my husband and get satisfied too.

Your libido (desire to have sex) is ok and still you feel irritation that means you have some underlying emotional issues. You have to look for anything which can be causing emotional distress. I cannot suggest any thing further until I know more details.

Dear Doctor. I’m 30 years old, Just Married and enough healthy man. My problem is, I’m facing the problem of, when I penetrate it discharge quickly. I’m very much frustrated. Will you please help me out? Best Regards.

Your problem of early discharge is known as Premature Ejaculation. Premature Ejaculation is the most common sexual problem experienced by man. There are certain techniques, which can help you to stay longer. Kegel exercise is one of the very popular and effective techniques to control premature ejaculation. These are the exercises of pubococcygeus muscles (PC) muscles. A man can do these exercises anytime and anywhere and no one will even know about it. To identify the muscles of your pelvic floor stop your flow of urine next time you go to urinal. Contract the muscles tightly holding for 10 seconds i.e. stop urinating in between. Do this thrice a day repeating 10 times. The PC muscles control the urine and semen and firmness of your organ during erection, so keeping them strong will increase ejaculatory control. Even while masturbating or doing intercourse you can practice stop and start i.e. rub for few thrust then stop for a minute and start rubbing again. Just relax on this; it should go away with some time. You may try SSRI (group of medicines) with Doctor’s consultation.