Hello sir my name is Sheena. I am a commercial pilot but there are no jobs right now .I’m getting frustrated day by day. I can see my dad worried for me, this makes me more frustrating ,my nature has started changing I get angry faster. I don’t know what to do. I repel people because of my irritating and frustrated nature. Please tell me how I can improve my nature?

Frustration produces aggression in human nature. Work on your feelings of frustration and try to accept your current situation. Put your best efforts to find out the job and leave rest to destiny. Do regular physical and mental exercises to reduce your irritation and increase your tolerance.

Dr., In spite of having good foreplay, my vagina remains slightly dry during intercourse. What could be the reason? The problem is since two months. Thankfully, I am not on any medication and do not suffer from irregular periods. Also, there’s no stress whatsoever and I have plenty of fluids. Please help.

Lack of proper excitement is the most common reason for this. Some women have natural dryness also. You can use lubricating gel or lubricated condoms to reduce dryness. With foreplay, you may try to increase your excitement through erotic talks, pictures, movies etc (depending up on your interest).

Sir, recently I’m undergoing lot of mental stress. I’m in love with a person whom I think is the right person with whom I can spend rest of my life. But my parents are against this. They are not ready to speak either with him or his parents. I love him and my parents also. I cannot live without either my parents or him. I tried to end my life but no courage for that also. Please help me Sir.

Only option you are left with is to convince your parents, any how. Discuss with them at length without becoming argumentative and loosing your cool. You may take help of some one who have good influence on them. Set a time limit up to which you can wait, there after you have to decide between them, if it does not workout your way.

Hello sir, my penis is not attaining full erection during mating, and I am least attracted by girls. Please suggest me, to overcome this problem.

Erectile dysfunction (not getting an erection ) has physical as well as psychological reasons. If you are experiencing spontaneous erections or morning erections then your problem is more likely to be psychological. You should consult psychiatrist or urologist for final diagnosis.

I have everything in my life I ever wanted. A great family, my husband respects, loves, and supports our son and me. However sex is another story. Before we got married we had sex often. Afterwards I began to work as a teacher and he works at a food place. Our schedules are completely different. After that sex was once a month. While I was pregnant he felt uncomfortable having sex. Then we did not have sex for 6 months. He says he is stressed with the business since he is the manager/waiter/Mr. fix it/ whatever they need. I’m not sure what to do. Before we have sex, it always seems we have a talk where things are going to change but they don’t. With all of this I am angry all the time hoping that the next day will be the one where he will initiate sex and not push me away. When we do make love it is great. But what can I do or he does to make our sex life better? Please help. 3 years of marriage.

You really need to sit together and work out on the issue. Stress can be cause behind this but it cannot be the only cause. Improve your bond through healthy communication, care and concerns. If he feels tired of work then change the time of sex, may be early morning.

I am married for the last 18 years and have three kids. However our sex life despite a love marriage is very dull. We just have sex twice or thrice a month which is making me desperate and confused. I have tried everything to please my wife but she does not want to indulge in sex. Is my sexual drive very high? Or is hers very low! Please advice what could be done.

Her drive seems to be low. There has to be many reasons behind this. Reasons vary, may be hormonal, emotional, biological, social etc. You have to discuss with her keeping this possibilities in mind and even more preferable is to consult Psychiatrist for counseling and ruling out hormonal problem.

Hello Sir!! Now a day’s one advertisement is coming on TV for contraceptive injection “Dimpa”. It claims that its effect remains for 3 months. I want to know that is it for male or female? Does it have any side effect? Please reply.

It has to be for female. It must be hormonal preparation. No such hormonal preperations are without side effects.

Dear Sir, I am a 22 years old boy & just completed my engineering degree. Now I am surrounded with lots of problems in my life. I can not understand what I have to do now? Earlier, when I faced any problem, your suggestion solved my problems. Thanks a lot for your help. Sir, I am from a well educated middle class family. My parents and brother all are employed. I am the younger one in the family. I have very good academic record in my career. I thought my life is going to be really happy after completion of Btech. But now actually I am dealing with a miserable life. My campus selection in a software company was cancelled. After that I am appearing in different public service exams, but still now I have not qualified in any exam. My first tension is regarding the Job. Since I am not getting a job, I have decided to go for MBA & my parents also agreed in that. The main problem is that I can’t give that much of effort towards study. I don’t know why I am not getting the interest to study as that was in my college days. I know without proper preparation, I will not qualify either in exam for job nor in MBA entrance. If I study with concentration for 1 day then in next day I am not able to study with that much of efficiency. Finally, I waste time in watching TV or chatting or porn movies. Why I am loosing my concentration in study? Now let me tell you about my personal problems that I can never share with my family members. First, I have undergone several break ups with my earlier girl friends. In some cases, it was a one sided love or misunderstanding or she left me. I easily fall in love with girls because I need someone who Loves me and cares for me, but they have always betrayed me. It’s true that I start searching for another girl when someone leaves me because the pain of break up really hurts me, and I don’t want to be a Devdas. If someone really loves me then I’ll be always with her, otherwise good bye to the relationship. Recently, a 9 month old online relationship with a girl (22 yrs old) was ended because she still thinks me as her friend. She told me that she can not love me. Also there was a misunderstanding between us to create such situation. I proposed her several times. You know sir whenever I’ll say her ‘I love you’… she replies me ‘I like you’. She told me she can’t love me because she will only love her husband. Then I understand she does not really love me, rather she was just acting and playing with my emotions. For last 1 month we are not talking to each other. Now my love for her has turned to hatred. Whenever her thoughts comes into my mind, I use as many as slang I know just to remove that feeling. I think love and breakup has become daily routine of my Life. Several times in a day my mood swings. Sometimes I feel the desire to study and other time my heart wants some girl’s love. I avoid romantic songs or movies, because that emotion only reminds me of my past and makes me emotional. Now I feel as if I am living an unpleasant life. All my problem starting from 1) cancellation of my job 2) Not qualifying any exam 3) Not getting a job 4) No mood to study hard 5) my miserable Love life. All these problems are making the situation worse. Sometimes I feel as my good career in Btech is going towards hell now and I am destroying my Life. I think if I can’t do anything in life, then I’ll choose the easy option to suicide. Please suggest me what I have to do now? I am really feeling alone and depressed now.

Looking to your problems, I think, you should seek help in person. Consult psychiatrist nearby.

Hello doctor, I am bhavika, I have some problem sometimes I am tired, board, and headache, very cold. What can I do please?

All these complains can be symptoms of various diseases. I need to know more details for me to be able to help you.

My wife treat me like a slave, we got love married, without understand her completely I got married; It is a great mistake I did in my life. I don’t have freedom myself. I have to ask her permission to speak with my own brother, parents and to my friends, even I cant able to send a mail to my friends. She never allows me to speak with my own brother’s wife via mobile. Even I have to ask her permission to watch TV or play with my desktop PC. And she doesn’t have smooth relationship with my parents, she doesn’t treat them good. She is always suspecting me and I am getting torture from her everyday. But she take care my health well. But I have no freedom to have a peaceful life. She is not willing to have a child, and also not willing to go to work, I have requested many times to her to go to work, but she is not accepted it, now she is a house wife and giving torture to me to come early from my office. I lost my life. She doesn’t allow me to have a mobile with me, she suspecting me, so she keeps my mobile with her. So my parents also can’t able to communicate with me alone. She is also accepting as she is torturing me and she ask for divorce and then she trying to suicide in front of me. One day we fight together and she decided to go to her home, every time I will do humble request to her, to live with me, but this time I have not requested her to live with me, after 1 hour she come to me and damaged my shirt and she hit on my chest after that as usual she entered in to a room and locked the door and she tried to suicide. Every time I will request & stop her suicide attempt. Last one month I am thinking to kill her. I want to kill her and go to Jail and I would like to place my life as a peaceful one. Also I am thinking about one more option, I would like to run away from her and make my carrier in some other place/city/country. I am not going to tell to anyone, where I am living. But in this option I am worrying about her, what she will do for her food and who will take care about her, since their parents are poor family, and she will never return back to her home. She will not come to any hospital, because she is very afraid about hospital. She will not come to consult with any psychiatrist. I am helpless, please advise me.

From your description about her, I suspect that she is suffering from Personality Disorder (probably Borderline Personality Disorder). It is condition where person (more common in female) shows certain personality traits, possessiveness, aggressiveness, suicidal threats, attention seeking behavior, suspiciousness etc are few of them. They are one of the most difficult people to stay with. You are required to consult psychiatrist even if she may not accompany you. You may take online counseling for your day to day problems with her.