I am 39 year old married man having 2 children. I am a family man, loving my family. I got to know a girl, with whom I fell in love. I used to talk over phone 4/5 times a day & also regularly SMS her. I love her a lot, but I also want to see her happily married with a suitable man. My wife got to know about it as she got the telephone call list. She created a lot of problem; she informed my parents as well as her family also. I promised her I will leave the girl, but I still love the girl. Now my wife is making my life hell. She calls me throughout the day 15/20 times & keeps track of my movement. She insists to leave my office & go to factory with my dad & brothers, so that I am always surrounded, she even enquires my staff & my family members of my movement. She threatens that she will hire a private detective to follow me. She even ordered me to leave my friends & go straight from home to office & vice versa. ….. Sir, I am fed up. She calls me 20 times a day & asks my movement. Sir, I love my family & I want to hold it together. At the same time I donâ€™t see any wrong having 1/2 girlfriends just for time pass or some extra excitement in life. Please tell me what to do? My wife is driving me mad by always suspecting me.
You have lost her trust and made her insecure. Her reaction is natural and probably your attitude, that there is nothing wrong in affair, is making it bit intense. Remember you cannot ride two horses at a time!
I have facing a problem of nightfall. In my dream i see some relative or family members. when i wake up i feel guilty. Is that every person see relative and family person in dream please tell me.
Nightfall is normal physiological body function. The best way to avoid it is either regular intercourse or masturbation. Every one has sexual dreams during nightfall. Dream objects varies from person to person. Dream objects are only symbol and you should not feel guilty about it.
Without wasting your time I will come directly to the point. I have a strange phobia of doing jobs. I have left four jobs in the last 1 year and now I am afraid to even go to interview. I know the reason of this problem which is starting from my childhood but still I am not able to cope with this drastic situation and canâ€™t live my life like this any more. I want to do a job but I canâ€™t .So please help me out with this situation before itâ€™s too late.
If you are aware about the reasons then you need to discuss that with Psychiatrist. You may try online counseling if you wish.
My 26 year old son told us he’s gay a year ago. My wife and I do not have a problem in accepting him as he is. We still love him. He wants us to talk more openly about it at home and with friends. He also wants to meet with a psychiatrist in India. Can you suggest a psychiatrist in Delhi and Coonoor (Nilgiris)? Thanks.
I am a 26-year girl and its 6 months since that I have married. To my shock, Iâ€™ve found that my husband is a diabetic patient and he has hide it from us. To add this we never had a sexual life since the day we got married for which my husband said excuses that sex is not important in life sort of things but when tested its found that he has an hormonal disorder. Even though I could bear with all this until day, he talks many lies, makes up things in such a way that he is right. Shall I continue my life with him? If he has a kid, could it have juvenile diabetes? I am frightened about it
He should have disclosed his Diabetic status before marriage. His sexual inadequacies may be related to his Diabetes. Hormonal problems are life long and he has to take corrective medicines for lifetime. Are you prepared for this? Moreover, are you prepared for compromised sexual life? You have to take final decision, keeping these two important points in mind.
Diabetes can be inherited and his child may end up having it at any stage of life.
Believe me I am going through the worst phase of my life. Nothing is happening good, even any good news is not sounding good to me. My confidence is all the time low, I feel suffocated, torn apart; feel like to just end everything. None of the relations are working, my parents fighting as usual over thousands of issues they have accumulated in their life, and now Iâ€™m sick of all this. On top of this my personal relations are screwed. My marriage was almost fixed with the girl I liked a lot (she had the personality and all I dreamt of), I was already so deep into getting that relation but things did not happened the way I wanted to. Before this girl said yes to our relation, my parents rushed me to finalize another relation saying that the first relation is dead, there is no response etc, however, I kept on saying multiple times please ask them once more before we finalize the second relation. But no they would not just listen, and within one week I took the biggest and my most worst decision of my life to accept the second relation, wherein the girl is nice by nature and all but not close to the image I had in my mind (and am not sure she would be able to cope up with my lifestyle). To add the nail in the coffin 7 days post to this, the Girl from the first relation called me up and said yes to our relation. Since then, things are becoming worse and worse for me. I do not know what to do, one way is the girl to whom I have given a commitment but am not sure I would be able to love and other way is the girl whom I wanted to marry but I am bounded and cannot say yes. The ring ceremony and wedding is in November, and am not internally happy about it. I donâ€™t know am I also justifying the girl am marrying to? Please help, am killing myself internally and emotionally.
If you feel that you wonâ€™t be able to make her happy (the girl you are going to marry) then talk to her honestly and break the engagement. It is always better to step back then going ahead and spoil some bodyâ€™s life as well as your life.
I broke up with my boyfriend because he always said that he would not marry me whenever he was in bad mood, and sometimes he used abusive language also. He says he never really meant that, it was just my temper. Here I am getting confused about this guy whether to continue or not, though we were together for 3 years. What should I do? Please help.
His threats of not getting married with you and using abusive language shows lack of respect for you. He considers you as an outlet for his bad mood. Relationship, where partners does not have respect for each other and using other partner as punching bag, will not go peacefully on long run. I think your decision to break up is right.
Hello Dr. I have completed my college education recently. But because of some health problems I was literally not able to attend the exams. Thank God every thing is alright now. But unfortunately I had to go psychiatrist. Now my treatment is going on but still Iâ€™m not feeling well. I can not decide whether itâ€™s psychiatric problem or other health problem. Please help me.
What do I understand by some health problems?
This is normal sexual fantasy. Many people experience the same kind of fantasy. There is nothing to feel bad about it.
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Freedom is one of the prime virtues of love. Unfortunately, you do not have it and you still feel that your husband loves you a lot! I do not know what your ideas about love are but for me it definitely includes freedom of expression, understanding, consideration, sacrifice and lot more. Try to put forward your feelings about the whole issue without blaming or accusing any one. Make him aware about your attachment to your parents (that any child would have for his/her parents). Any loving husband will understand this provided it is properly conveyed in non aggressive way. At the same time you should also convey that as grand parents they have equal rights and desires to spend some time with grand children, in an assertive but non aggressive way. Rather than trying to patch up between them, try shift your focus on your duties towards your parents. You owe some duties towards your parents and you are going to fulfil that without bringing other issues in the way, you should make this thing very clear to him in very polite but firm way.