Hello Dr, I have participated in sexual activities 8 to 10 times and I have observed that the semen is coming out of my penis within seconds. I came to know that this is called as Erectile dysfunction. Could you please let me know the way to cure it? I am a sportsman and do lot of exercises and I am fit, I take good intake. Please do assist me in curbing this

Your problem is Premature Ejaculation and not Erectile Dysfunction. Premature Ejaculation is the most common sexual problem experienced by man.
There are certain techniques, which can help you to stay longer.
Kegel exercise is one of the very popular and effective techniques to control premature ejaculation. These are the exercises of pubococcygeus muscles (PC) muscles. A man can do these exercises anytime and anywhere and no one will even know about it. To identify the muscles of your pelvic floor stop your flow of urine next time you go to urinal. Contract the muscles tightly holding for 10 seconds i.e. stop urinating inbetween. Do this thrice a day repeating 10 times. The PC muscles control the urine and semen and firmness of your organ during erection, so keeping them strong will increase ejaculatory control.
If you are married then squeeze technique can help you. While having sex when you think you are at the point of coming, ask your partner to gently squeeze the head of your organ. This will help in delaying the urge to ejaculate. A little practice will help get the right pressure.
Sometimes it is helpful to masturbate an hour or two before having sex because a second erection afterwards usually lasts longer.
Even feeling and touching other parts of the body during sexual act avoiding intercourse can be helpful to remove pressure from your sexual encounters.
Simple change in the sexual position which is less stimulating (female up) may also help.
Certain medicines eg. SSRI, local anaesthetic cream and condoms are also useful.

Dear Sir I am a 38 year unmarried male. Since the age of 16/17 I have the habit of masturbation, I am always attracted towards sex, in my free time I always think about sex and sexy woman’s /surf porn site on net / read sex stories on net and start masturbating. Now I have to give up all these thinking and habit of masturbation .Please let me know does my problem deals with psychology. Should I consult psychiatrist. Kindly acknowledge. Thanks Regards

You seem to be obsessed about the sex and compulsive masturbator. You need to get control over your impulses. Psychiatrist is the right person to help you.

Hi Dr., Here’s my problem. I have a very bad habit. I like to wear Panties and I am crazy about it. One day I was alone at home, considering this as an opportunity, I took my younger sisters panty and was masturbating in it. Suddenly my sister arrived and she saw me in this condition. I was caught red handed. Later I apologized to her and she said that’s ok. She also said that she can understand my sexual desire. But I am very much ashamed of this. I think of suicide. My other problem is When I masturbate I always think of my sister, I feel like having sex with my own sister. Once I see her lovely affectionate face I feel very guilty about dirty thoughts. Please help… I love my sister a lot. Please make me a normal man

You are having a problem of Fetishism. Fetishism is the sexual attraction to material and terrestrial objects (like panty in your case) while in reality the essence of the object is inanimate and sexless. You do have underlying Depression with obsessive thoughts. Please consult Psychiatrist nearby.  Do not consider this just a habit, it’s Psychological Disorder which can be treated.
 

Sir, I am writing to you for the fourth time. As I mentioned earlier mine is a distant relationship with a man of 36 years. I am 28years old and we are in relationship for the last 3years. Sir, for the past 1month I’m facing lot of problem in my relationship. The guy I’m into relationship has 2elder sisters and 1younger sister and brother. I would like your help in understanding the nature of the guy I’m in relationship with. He thinks a lot of his sisters, as I mentioned earlier, we are not getting married till his younger sister gets married and I have no choice except to accept it. The problem is if I’m not well and his sister is not well, he is worried more of his sisters who are already married. The actual problem is I have a gynec problem and I’m supposed to undergo a minor surgery at the same time one of his sisters who is already married with kid has a cyst in her ovaries and has this problem for quite some time. When I told him about my problem he said, that is a simple problem when compared to my sister. When he stated this I was hurt, but somehow I kept quite. But couple of days back he quoted saying Thank God, I am relieved out of tension as my sister problem is resolved. I felt hurt. I questioned him stating when I am into problem you were not worried and concerned, why is that different. When I said the same thing, he got angry and since then he is not answering the call. It’s hurting me a lot. I changed myself for him, only to ensure that he is happy. He never thinks of our relationship or the future of relationship. All the time he is only worried of his family. I don’t even get to talk to him after coming home in the night because he states that he wants to give time to his mother. When I ask him what about me, he says this is how I’m. If you want to be with me, you have to accept me the way I’m. Sir, he is 36years old, he has fulfilled all his responsibilities as son and brother, and I am still supporting him by waiting for him till his sister gets married. When I question him or ask him why don’t you call me or message me, why aren’t you concerned of me he gets angry and he disconnects the call. When I try calling him he doesn’t answer. He wasn’t like this before, I still remember him saying that I am tired of all the responsibilities just give me 1year and I will be with you. But these days, he is not bothered of me and this hurts me a lot. Please help to make him understand that even I am part of him and he should be worried of me. How do I make him realize what he is doing with me is wrong, the way he is behaving with me hurts me. When I say all these, he is not ready to listen. Please tell me what I should do. Please help me Sir.

I’ve told you to rethink about this relationship. He does not have respect for your feelings instead he says this is the way he is! He is taking you for granted; now you have to decide that how much and how long you are going to take this?!

can we treat a person if he is not willing to go to psychiatrist. My father has been drinking for years now. Moreover, keeps cribbing about small things. He is unemployed and sits at home and always after my mother’s life for not giving her tea/diner etc on time. If he gets a missed call, he suspects it is from my mos family and they are doing this to tease him. But he doesn’t agree to go to psychiatrist?? What shall we do?

Ya, you can surely consult a psychiatrist in his absence and seek the guidance from him about what you should do. This is a quiet common scenario in psychiatrist’s practice so do not hesitate to go to them without patient.

Sir, I’m 19yrs old. For the past 3yrs I’m in love with a guy who is 20yrs old. He too loves me madly. We have planned to get married after 4 yrs. We get easily tempted that whenever we get chance we have sex (at least 4 times in a week).Due to afraid of getting conceived both made up our mind not 2 perform insertion of penis alone. I’m damn sure he won’t cheat me. Is it correct what we do at this age? And I’m confused whether will it loosen my breast? Will we lose interest in sex after marriage? Please do reply me sir.

Four times a week and four years to go, this will definitely reduce your physical interest in each other. Breast may get loose after extensive fondling but more so after pregnancy and lactation.

Dear Doctor, I found your email address from Internet, I have a problem so I needed your help, please advise me; I am 27 Years old Male, I and My Wife have a Problem, When We start intercourse I discharge Sperm very soon, We cannot enjoy more than 1-3 strokes or 2-6 Sec, I am very much worried about this problem. So please tell me if this is any kind of disease or sexual weakness. If yes then please tell me any other way to get free from this problem because according to our culture we cannot have sexual health Pills and treatment.

Your problem of early discharge is known as Premature Ejaculation. Premature Ejaculation is the most common sexual problem experienced by man. There are certain techniques, which can help you to stay longer. Kegel exercise is one of the very popular and effective techniques to control premature ejaculation. These are the exercises of pubococcygeus muscles (PC) muscles. A man can do these exercises anytime and anywhere and no one will even know about it. To identify the muscles of your pelvic floor stop your flow of urine next time you go to urinal. Contract the muscles tightly holding for 10 seconds i.e. stop urinating in between. Do this thrice a day repeating 10 times. The PC muscles control the urine and semen and firmness of your organ during erection, so keeping them strong will increase ejaculatory control. Even while masturbating or doing intercourse you can practice stop and start i.e. rub for few thrust then stop for a minute and start rubbing again. Just relax on this; it should go away with some time.

Dear Sir, I am research student in one of the premier institute and in the final stages of my PhD. I’m very co-operative person and always tend to extend help to needy person. My graduation days were very good. But thereafter I struggled a lot. Few deaths happened in my family and my parents got disturbed. Financially we became week. Being an elder son I tried to settle the things. In these situations I took education loan to complete my PG. After masters I joined PhD. I took personal and home loans to fulfill the responsibilities one has towards family. I paid the personal loans from my scholarship. I have seen lots many ups and downs in personal relations and always at the forefront to sort out the matters of family members and friends. I got married 5 years back and am blessed with a son (3 yr old now) and we are a happy family. My wife is very supportive and recently shifted to other place for my son’s schooling. After briefing about me, I would like to seek your advice on my problem. Since last 6/7 months I lost momentum in my research work. I have completed almost 80% work and will require another 3/4 months to complete my PhD work. I feel following are few reasons which may cause the lost of interest in work. (1)We had some issue in department and I was one of the students involved and was at forefront. Over time it got sorted out but it cost me very dearly in terms of time. I have completely come out of this issue. (2) Its been 5 years in research and at the same place. I have noticed the change in attitude in people around me. (3) I don’t feel like going to workplace anymore. (4) Unable to concentrate on studies. Luckily my advisor is a great person and helping me a lot to come out of this situation. But I feel motivated for some time and again loose the momentum. I have helped lot many people but unable to handle my own situation. I can understand the gravity of problem. I am confident enough to complete my work but unable to do so, due to above reasons. The need of hour is to come out of this trouble to the earliest and get back to work. Please advice me to overcome this. Thank you.

I do not think that I can suggest you any magical way to overcome this as you already have motivating adviser and in that case he would have done the magic. Whatever may be the reason, you need to keep your final goal in front of your eyes, have to stay focused and have to be self-motivated person.

Hello doctor, I am bhavika, I have some problem sometimes I am tired, board, and headache, very cold. What can I do please?

All these complains can be symptoms of various diseases. I need to know more details for me to be able to help you.

I had love marriage in 2000 and blessed with one child. My husband is an engineer and has been unemployed for last 6 years and I am taking care of all financial burdens through working. Since we got married he had a very low sex desire and hence I had been living with it. For last 2-3 yrs we hardly have sexual contact and in spite of asking several times he refuses to talk on this subject and says since he is unemployed he has no right to enjoy. Recently his behaviour has drastically changed as he is always negative and doesn`t come physically close to me at all. After probing he says that I am unable to emotionally connect with you due to your behaviour etc. For last 10 years I have never fought with him on larger issues but only normal disagreements. Though he is very supportive on all other household matters but when it comes to our relationship he is much closed. He is upset with his family members including his father, brother and one step mother. They have been never supportive in any way and from early age he was always beaten up by them for small things .Since for last 7 yrs he is jobless and now I am tired of taking all responsibility of home and work, and also he says now it will be difficult to get a job. My job is also a pvt. job which is unstable and too demanding, on top of it i don`t get any financial and physical, support from my husband, i want to dissolve this marriage especially when he had said that I cannot emotionally connect with you and also that i have lot of poison inside me and also he said that he is a man of very few desires. I have been very patient with him for last 10 years and now my health has started deteriorating. PLEASE help me whether it is his genuine problem or he is mentally sick, and whether should I dissolve this marriage?

It seems that his issues are not only limited to sex and unemployment, there has to be other deep rooted psychological issues with him. His inner turmoil is not letting him behave effectively in the given circumstances. You should seek professional help to deal with this. As I understand he might not be ready to seek professional help in that case you can have a clear discussion with him disclosing your intention to get separated, as he might be taking you for granted.