You have already done whatever was needed. Now itâ€™s time to keep patience from your side. Just stop putting further efforts and give her time. If she initiates any dialogues in this direction then she is interested in saving her marriage otherwise you have to consider that she is not interested. You cannot keep on agreeing her demands like this otherwise she will be inclined to use such tactics in future also. You can also think of consulting psychiatrist for counselling.
Doc sir, I am a married man for last 12 years. I used to masturbate from the age of 16 years. I get married at the age of 22. From the first night of my married life, I faced the problem of premature ejaculation till today. I have taken treatment from a psychiatrist for 6 months but not get relief. Plz help me. I have two sons also.
Premature Ejaculation is the most common sexual problem experienced by man. You should do Kegel’s exercises (you will find this exercise in earlier pages of this site). You may take medicines (from Psychiatrist, if earlier psychiatrist has not helped you to your satisfaction then you may think of getting second opinion) to get immediate effects as Kegel’s ex. will take some time to show it’s effect.
Why do I feel loneliness in spite of having good family?
There are many reason for loneliness, family is not the only aspect. More details about your life, profession, past and other spheres are needed to help you further.
I am a 24 year old guy working in a software company. In my project, I have a very good friend, of course its a girl. Of late, I realized that I had fallen for her. She is very nice and caring about me and I really want her as my life partner. We have nice understanding and we always keep chatting and joking. I belong to a very broad minded family who will happily accept her. My problem is, I am very much hesitant to tell her what I feel. If she says a ’NO’ and ’I have thought about you just as a friend’, I will loose a very good friend. I am really confused. What should I do?
Tricky situation! Trust your gut feeling , if you have been successful doing so in past in case of other confusions. Alternatively, start hanging out with her for coffee,drive or places where you can spend time. If she prefers and continues to spend her time with you outside your office (not on chat but in person) then you can take a risk to propose her.
I was in love with a man for 1 year. But for past 8 months he is ignoring me. He does not want to keep relation with me. So I am in deep depression for last 8 months. I had to take anti depressant medicines. How should I come out of it? All the time I am thinking about him only. I cannot stop thinking about him. Whatever I do, but he is always in my mind. What should I do?
Accept that he is not interested in continuing relationship and you cannot sit on somebody’s head and make him/her to love you. He might have promised you the sky in relationship but now he has changed. You have to come out of your emotional dependency. Break all type of communications with him and give time to yourself to come out of this.
Sir is masturbation a habit or a natural thing if done everyday?
If it is not compulsion then it is natural.
Hey doctor, my wife is very temperamental (short tempered) and doesn’t listen to me. She even uses abusive language and never has shown any respect to me in my 3 years of marriage. We are virtually separated. Please advice what we should do as our 1 year old son would be most affected.
Reasons behind aggressiveness can be many, starting from personality, family traits to frustrations in relationship. One needs detailed history to analyze. Same thing applies to respect also. You should go to counselor before you decide for separation.
Hi doctor, I am a girl aged 20 years. I have a brother, 22 years old. Here is my problem. When I am asleep, my brother used to touch all of my private parts and enjoy. Infect me too was enjoying this. I was acting as if I was asleep and allow him to do foreplays. This continued and I started to cooperate him. Now he makes me naked and licks my genital. I am unable to avoid this because I really enjoy. I am very much confused. Please advice me. I donâ€™t want to continue this. He also has a habit of wearing my panties. I want to stop this. Please help me.
To me, having sexual relations with brother is unhealthy. You should stop even if you are enjoying. Tell him that you want to stop and do not cooperate rather oppose. Habit of wearing female’s cloths by male is sexual deviation and requires Psychiatric consultation.
Hello Doctor, I got married 11 years ago to my cousin. We never had good relationship with their family before my marriage. But on my mother’s force being elder in my family and 2 sisters following me I was forced to get married. And I feel at that age I was immature to get married. My husband had a premarital affair and that continued for some time. Thinking of families pride and my sisterâ€™s future, I bared lot of torture for myself. I’ve got 2 daughters and we were transferred to some other place. For 2 years we were fine. After that he started playing some gambling near his office, and used to come home late after boozing. Once he is drunk, he behaves very abnormally cursing my parents and provoking me also into his discussions. Slowly he sold a house given to me by my parents, my gold everything and we were into debts totally. And my parents stood by me thinking it was their fault to get me married. His parents also supported only him saying that it was my fault that I couldnâ€™t control my husband in doing all these things. My husband never used to tell me about what he is doing outside the house. We kept him in a rehab center also for 2 months, but it was of no use. I started looking for a job thinking my childrenâ€™s future. Then I got a govt. job in my native place after 10 years. My husband allowed me to join the job thinking that I would live with his parents, since they were staying in my home town itself. But my in laws didnâ€™t allow me to stay with them and I some how managed to convince me to stay with my parents and do my job. I’ve put my children in school and they stay with me. Itâ€™s been 1 year now I’am doing my job and my job is in shifts. Every night my husband drinks and though he is far he speaks very badly on phones about me and my family. He calls up to the office and enquires about me. when ever I go to him he is normal. Day by day itâ€™s been growing more and I feel I am also confused and mentally sick. Itâ€™s been more than 2 years he left us financially. He never tells about his income though he started going to office. He says to leave my job now and come to him. I am not able to decide anything. Please suggest.
You are staying with your parents and managing your own livelihood. There is no emotional bond between two of you. He is alcoholic and gambler. He has never treated you rightly. You married him in compulsion. What other valid reason you are looking for separation?! Never ever leave your job because financial independence is your greatest strength in this situation.
I am married for 12 years and have a Son of 11 years old. Since last 3 years, I am involved in extra marital affairs, i.e. to a married woman having 2 young children who is staying opposite to my Flat. She almost hates her Husband and ready to do anything for me. She is crazy for me. My wife never interested in sex and she is angry every time. She suspect me a bit, but till date she don’t have any concrete evidence. We used have intercourse once in a month only. Now, I understand all the reality, and want to live with my wife only. I want to avoid the women I am having an affair. She even kill me, if I say this to her. She is a professional and very decent in society. I want to come out of her. Please guide me.
It seems that both of you have entered in extra marital affairs for different needs. Majority of women seek emotional support and concern from extra marital relations, while men have primarily physical interest, in such relations. Women will always remain more attached then men in such relations (exceptions are always there!) and more so if her emotional needs are satisfied. What you interpret as craziness for you, might be her emotional dependency on you. In such condition, she may react wildly to your back steps in relation and that is what exactly you are anticipating. So you need to do this gradually but surely (if you really wish to do so, otherwise there are incidences of going back and forth). Reduce your involvement in her personal matters and ultimately stop. Do not talk long and daily. Stop sending any emotional signals. She may react wildly; emotionally or in a threatening way but you need to remain steady in your approach.
I do not know why you want to call off this relation but I hope it is not because you had what you wanted and now loosing interest. If this is the case then it is emotional cheating on your part. Please remember this and do not do this to anyone.