I’m married for a year now. We got engaged 6months before our marriage. He’s the only guy I’ve ever dated. We dated for 1 1/2 years before we got engaged. No past neither flings nor affairs no fooling around. Never believed in it though I’ve had numerous proposals from guys I thought its better to enjoy life with friends now than get into relationships. The problem is like always I was over at my guy place and I just happened to use his laptop as I needed to use the internet. I found several porn sites open. When I checked tab I found more links. I was just very taken aback. Since I was upset he figured out the reason and without me even asking him or complaining he promised me he’ll never ever visit one again. He doesn’t need to and they don’t mean anything to him. I blindly believed him. Never doubted him for anything. I’m not the suspicious kind of a person nor do I snoop around in others business. 6months into marriage like always I was surfing the net and on the address slot I found the porn site links I’d seen way back then. I immediately asked him that are u watching porn again and he just denied it completely and told me it’s from the past. The thing is I didn’t believe the story. I hate liars or lying. That’s one thing I can’t stick. Be honest and accept whatever you are doing, good or bad. Life rolled on I found newer sites and I again asked him and he again denied. After Diwali(2008) I was admitted to the hospital for asthma. The day I came back home from the hospital the same day my brother in law was leaving for college after Diwali break. Since I was advised rest I was sleeping. At 4 in the morning I woke up and found him missing. I went looking for him and found him masturbating in a room. [We had sex that very evening. We’d not had sex in 6 days and though just back from the hospital I still had sex because I knew he’d be desperate]. I was so shocked that I just came back to my room and slept. I couldn’t take the site of him. After a week of no talking he finally asked me what the deal is. I told him and all he had to say was I tried stopping myself but I couldn’t stay away from porn. We’ve had 4 massive fights one time when I literally slapped him. Till date he still watches it. When I’m away from him or he’ll try sending me to my parent’s house when he’s off work. I have clearly stated my feelings to him. Frankly it’s not the porn it’s the lying and hiding which is bothering me. I can’t stand liars. I’ve never lied to him even knowing I’ve made a grave mistake I’m honest. That’s what I want him to be. I even told him I’ll watch it with you and act things out be a part of your fantasies if that’s what you want .But he doesn’t say anything. He just says I’m sorry its a mistake and it will never happen again and then again the minute I’m out of the house he’s jerking off again. I can’t trust him anymore. I love him too much to end things and I can’t talk to him because he never wants to get into discussions. I don’t know what to do. I really don’t.

Almost all males are voyeur to some extent and some of them are addicted to it. He is amongst the one who might be addicted. These addicted males keep on watching, collecting and storing pornographic materials in different forms. Many women are very sensitive about men’s habit of looking at pornographic materials and feel neglected. He is lying because you object and fight. Stop objecting and fighting but you should leave this topic with a note that you do not like his habit. You have to understand that this is like other habits (Smoking, Alcohol etc.), more you nag more it worsens. Do not think that his habit is because of some inadequacies on your part.