Dear R P
Reducing expectations in relationship is an indirect process. You cannot reduce them straight away. Reduction in expectations is a byproduct of change in your attitude. You need to understand that giving 100% in relations is your attitude but it is not necessary that other person have the same attitude. Unfortunately, emotions do not follow Newton’s third law so it cannot be equal from both ends. Giving 100% does not give you guarantee of getting 100% back. This understanding will reduce your expectations automatically.
I m a regular reader of ur articles. i read your one of the old aritcle regarding relationship and expectation. and i found it very similar to my case. i want ur advice and further information in this regard. Hope you will help me and give me some good advice. you had written in tht article dated 16th february, 2005 tht bcoz of ur more expectations u suffer in ur relationship. but its nt tht much easy to stop ur expectation from ur luved ones. i knw its very wrong. but can u give some advice tht how we can stop our expectations from others. yes as u written, i m the same kind of person who wonder for luv of people, i always give 100% in any relation whether they r my friends or my family. but yes m expecting also. how to stop my expactiations?
Dear R P