Hi Sir, I am in a relation with a girl from past 9 months, and we are planning to get marry soon. We used to have oral sex from past many months. We had complete sex few days back and now we both enjoy also. But the problem is that when I inserted in her first time my sperm got out quickly even within few seconds, and she was also wondering that how can it be so early. She was not at all satisfied that day that I know, but next time when we had sex I controlled my self and I took it a bit longer but could not stop for long. Sir can you just tell me how can I control myself, I want her to bring her liquid first so that she got satisfied. So pls tell me the way to hold myself for longer time. Hope u help me.

This is quite normal in initial acts. Both of you should not give deep thoughts to it.

There are certain techniques, which can help you to stay longer. Kegel exercise is one of the very popular and effective techniques to control ejaculation. These are the exercises of pubococcygeus muscles (PC) muscles. A man can do these exercises anytime and anywhere and no one will even know about it. To identify the muscles of your pelvic floor stop your flow of urine next time you go to urinal. Contract the muscles tightly holding for 10 seconds i.e. stop urinating in between. Do this thrice a day repeating 10 times. The PC muscles control the urine and semen and firmness of your organ during erection, so keeping them strong will increase ejaculatory control. While having sex when you think you are at the point of coming, ask your partner to gently squeeze the head of your organ. This will help in delaying the urge to ejaculate. A little practice will help get the right pressure. Sometimes it is helpful to masturbate an hour or two before having sex because a second erection afterwards usually lasts longer. Even feeling and touching other parts of the body during sexual act avoiding intercourse can be helpful to remove pressure from your sexual encounters. Simple change in the sexual position which is less stimulating (female up) may also help. Certain medicines eg. SSRI, local anaesthetic cream and condoms are also useful.