Hi, I want a solution for my problem at the earliest. I am in love with a guy and he loves me more than I do. V were very very happy at the beginning may be for about 5 months. I am very possessive that I want him to talk with me or message me always. He also was like so mad on me. But as time passed now nearly one n half years. He says we must lead a practical life n I must adjust. I felt he is avoiding for some reason. I kept fighting with him (till now) but even after that, he leaves so cool. This made me feel he doesn’t bother about me. Actually, he loved me for 4 years n then only proposed him during those 4 years I don’t even know him nor have spoken with him. when he behaves like not bothering me I threaten him. Shout at him to mind about me. This makes him hate me. I am not able to control that… I talk so much in anger. Very short tempered I become when I feel he doesn’t love me. I have hurt him by so many means by my words. V broke up. I swear him I’ll never talk. Then again, I start begging him back. This has happened a number of times. At times, he fights, he comes back. I am myself confused and make him confused. I even cannot realize for what I love him. He is not happy I am also not happy. What should I do now? I am an Libran n he the Geminian…he s an extremist in everything… I am out of my senses to decide.. Help me so that at least I don spoil the life of one who loves me…

  If I have to answer in one word, my answer would be “Grow up”.  You should behave in mature way. Try to over come your insecurities and stop judging his love in his every action. You cannot sit on his head and make him to love you. Love means freedom. Give him breathing space. Just be relax and make him comfortable in the relationship. Rest of things will come naturally.