Hi, I am married for last 8 months and my husband does love me but when we fight he is very rude and says certain things which hurt me too much…I too answer back and don’t take what he says…but I feel I am not as rude as him, he also hits himself and tries to hurt himself which I feel is very dangerous…he is a nice guy but is very very short tempered. How do I handle this situation?

If you are not as rude as him, that is fine. When he is in good mood, you should tell him that he is hurting you this way. Stop answering back so that you can control his temper in indirect way. If you feel pressurized by not answering back, put your arguments after he cools down a bit. Ask him to do relaxation exercises, meditation and physical exercises to improve his mood and positive temperament.