hi doctor I am 23 years old. I had an affair for the past 5 years and also had sexual relations. Left all these things and I desired to start a new life. My marriage was fixed and I told everything to him. He rejected me and stopped the marriage. Now my parents got ashamed and don’t know what to do. Please help me.

Every one teaches us to be honest but sometimes honesty is damaging, particularly when it has no relevance with the present. In your case, it was unnecessary confession, which you might have done to get rid of guilt of cheating your future husband. You should always remember that such confessions are always unwarranted and creates issues. No men will ever accept this and if he accepts he may start doubting you any time for such relations. If you want to show honesty to your future husband then be loyal to him through out but never disclose your past which has no relevance to your present.