Hello Sir, I am married from the last 2years. However, I never had physical relationship with my wife as she has a fear that it will pain a lot. She also understands the meaning of what she is doing to me, but feels helpless. I don’t know what to do. Do you can recommend me some medicine? Some time she wants to have sleeping pills or injection, which I don’t want to give. I am in trouble and don’t know where to go, or what to do. Even I don’t want to break this relationship because otherwise she is handling my family (parents) very well. Please revert I shall be thankful to you.

She is having fear of penetration. This fear is learned fear, she might have heard (e.g. from friend or colleague), seen (e.g. in movie etc.) or read (e.g. in book etc.) that it causes pain. You need to go slowly about it. First, you assure her that you are not going to penetrate without her permission and not going to cause any kind of pain to her. Engage in sexual activity without penetration (i.e. no intercourse). Once the comfort level increases try to go further, may be with finger initially and then penetrate. This may take 2 to 3 months also. If you not find this approach working then consult psychiatrist.