dear sir I am married for last ten years and all these years my wife never achieved orgasm by intercourse even though I pump her for half an hour. She just doesn’t seem to enjoy intercourse. However I have to masturbate her to bring her to climax. It is very frustrating as all these years I have never experienced the joy of bringing my wife to pleasure. She also has very low sex drive and can stay without sex for days. What is the problem and can it be sorted out.

She is suffering from “Female Orgasmic Disorder”, also referred as “inhibited female orgasm”. There may be various reasons behind this problem, mainly psychological starting from past traumatic experiences of childhood to emotional disturbances. One requires detail session to analyze it. You are required to consult psychiatrist for the same. Mind you, psychiatrist and not any other so called counselor or quacks.