Dear Dr. I had been married for 7 years; I am 34 years and my husband 40 years. Our relationship is perfect except our sex life, we don’t have an actual sexual relationship for almost four years, due to my over weight after delivering my only girl. My husband keeps telling me that he loves me so much and never minds that we had bad sexual relationship. He is too picky in sex, as he was having lot of relations before marriage he doesn’t like my body. Now he has almost stopped hugging me. I can’t believe that this can be a problem, because I believe; when you are in love with someone you want to have sex with her regardless to what she looks like. I am frustrated from being rejected and it really hurts.

Body does play great role in sexual arousal and more so as you grow old. Obesity can be big turn off for sexual desire. Try to get into the shape. You may need to work hard for achieving that, depending up on your current weight. You may talk to him about your frustration and ill feeling, he may try to reduce your frustration as he loves you.